Motherhood…what can I say? It’s not easy. That’s probably why I write about it so much. I needed an outlet. I needed to know I wasn’t alone. And guess what? I’m not. And you aren’t either!

You know why motherhood is so hard?

There are too many expectations. Too many comparisons. Too many judgments. Too many reasons to make you feel inadequate, not good enough and of course, like a failure.

And we are failing. As moms, we are failing. Except the only thing we are failing is ourselves. We are failing to give ourselves the credit we deserve.

Because being a mom is hard. Really hard. It’s like trying to break down a brick wall with your bare hands hard. But there you are, digging in to do it.

And that’s the amazing part of motherhood.

The strength. The fight. The unwillingness to give up. We do it all for our children because that’s what being a mom means.

Sure, we won’t always make it unscathed. In fact, more often than not, we’ll struggle. We’ll struggle with decisions. We’ll wrestle with our flaws. We’ll regret our moments of weakness when we lost our cool.

But who said we have to be perfect?

Where did these impossible expectations come from?

I cannot tell you.

But what I can tell you is I’m not living up to them.

I probably never will.

I can only be the mom that I am, not the one I’m expected to be. And that means being honest. And honestly, I’m not always the best mom. I don’t love my kids every moment of every day.

The struggle is real.

But I try. I am trying my best. I am navigating my way through this thing called motherhood. And while I wish I could say it feels like floating in the clouds with rainbows and sunshine, most days it’s actually more like swimming in the middle of the ocean trying not to drown.

Don’t get me wrong, I have some sunny days too. But motherhood is like the weather, every day really is unpredictable (despite what that forecast tells you!).

You know why motherhood is so hard?

Because the world around us has made it that way.

Being a mom is a beautiful gift. It’s full of surprises, excitement, milestones, challenging obstacles and a whole lot of love.

But we can do this.

Together, we can do this.

Together, we can make the mistakes of motherhood more acceptable. Together, we can make the hardships more manageable. Together, we can make the journey more memorable.

One step at a time. One day at a time. Less fluff, more real.

It’s okay to not always be okay. And it’s even more okay to share that.

You got this mama! And I am right here with you.