As my husband and I continue our search for the ‘perfect’ home (I am starting to believe there really is no such thing unless you have an unlimited budget!), finances start adding up quickly and the next thing you know you’re arguing about a Starbucks coffee purchase.
It’s easy to get caught up in the nitpicking details of life, but sometimes you just have to sit back and recognize what’s really important in life. There are days when I think more money would make all of my problems go away, but I know that’s not true. My brother-in-law jokingly says to me, “Mo’ money, mo’ problems”. It always makes me laugh but there’s seems to be a lot of truth to that statement. Sure, all the money in the world could buy me my dream home, endless vacations, all the clothes, shoes and purses I could ever want but it can’t buy me what’s really important…those things of priceless value. There is no amount that could buy me happiness (maybe temporarily but not long term), love (the real and true kind), genuine feelings or gift of being a parent. So while I would be able to buy all the materialistic things in the world, I wouldn’t be able to buy the things that really matter.
The other day I watched my daughter zoom down the hallway in her walker bumping into walls and laughing as she would turn around to look at me only to laugh even harder seeing that I was. I couldn’t help but feel so much love and joy in my heart. In that moment, all my worries and stresses from the day/week/month just faded away. ‘This is my child…she’s mine…I made her!’, I thought to myself as a huge smile came to my face. There is no amount of money that could have bought that moment for me. And I know that’s only one of many to come.
Being a parent is not easy, but it’s so rewarding that it’s the one thing I would say I’d do no matter how difficult it was. There is nothing more priceless your child’s smile, hug, kiss, reach for you, cuddle with you, cry for you, recognition of you, hearing the words ‘I love you’ from their tiny little mouths, the way they squeeze you, hold on to you and love you. And as they get older, nothing more priceless than watching them make right and moral decisions, stand up for themselves and their values, come to you with honesty and grow up along the way to be the children/adolescents/young adults and adults you hoped they would be.
Of course you’re not going to like, approve and maybe even know if every decision they make, but the job of being a parent and the feelings that come along with it are truly priceless.
Sure, my husband and I will never have more money than we know what to do with it, but that’s okay. We will survive. We will make it work. But what we do have is happiness, love and a child (and hopefully one day children) to call our own. And for me, there is no price tag on that.